Watch out for the Darkies!!!

The game of love is very complex. It requires a lot of energy, work, and patience. These days its not easy finding ‘Mr Right’, and the addition of your peers and your community frowning upon your relationships, most of the time brings the relationship a whole lot of strain and at the end the relationship dissolves.
This brings me to the topic that I want to talk about, not being racist or anything but I do feel that one should stick to their own kind when choosing a date. It just makes things so much easier for both parties. One does not need to worry about the snotty looks, or endless snickering that they might get from the public. It just looks right (when you’re in a romantic relationship with your own kind that is).
The mistake that most young people make in South Africa, is this façade that they put on thinking that everyone now has this togetherness notion and that since this is ‘New South Africa’ any thing goes and every one will be fine with it. I am so sorry to burst anyone’s bubble but in reality that bubble-gum notion does not exist and will never exist.
Lets take a look at Rhodes and the seemingly homely, unification notion that they portray to the many. It’s often spoken about how Rhodes has this homely feeling and all the races get along with each other and how little or no prejudice exists. To some extent some of these ideas are true but many are not. The fact remains that racism is very much prevalent but in this institution it is very much under the raider in fear of people not wanting to be labelled racist.
The one thing about this campus that has stuck in my mind is that, while there are visible interracial couples around, it is quite rare to see a white male with a black female, and if you do see them around it is usually in the at night ( how convenient for us darkies!). The only sense that I got from this, when I first noticed this, is shame, I feel that if you are a jock (who are usually white males) here at Rhodes and you were seen making out or going on a romantic date with a woman of colour, you would (in close doors of course, we don’t want our dear Dean Of Student breaking sweat again over such foolishness) get ridiculed in such a harsh way and one could even get isolated. Oh such is life!
In returning back to my point of sticking to your own kind when choosing a date, lets face it ladies, and don’t worry I’ve slowly but surely accepted the truth, that even if you are drop dead gorgeous, perfect body, lovely personality, preferably middle class if not higher! Oh and offcourse, even if you are a fluent in English and you are a woman of colour (these are usually traits that are preferred at most times) it is quite rare from the experience that me and my friends have had (my friends are quite fabulous I must say) that a white male (who is a jock and who would be quite sober) would actually approach you and be interested in knowing you in a romantic manner. I know I am probably being unfair, but from what I’ve seen some of these events do occur, it’s just the fact that many people seem very oblivious to it, sad but true, again that is Rhodes for you; a sugar coated institution of puppets that always put a front.
In conclusion, word of advice for my fellow students, if you don’t want to get hurt and if you want to be in a relationship here at Rhodes with no drama from the outside world attached to it, do yourself a favour, choose your own kind, your life will be so much easier! Trust me I know.